7 pain-points in parent/teen career conversations
In March 2019, I conducted 21 interviews with parents across the USA and Canada to learn more about how they helped their teens make plans for their lives after high school. The interviews were fascinating; I enjoyed listening to parents' candid answers about their kids, their struggles and their advice for other parents.
During these conversations, I noticed some common themes regarding their hopes, concerns and pain points. I learned a lot from these interviews and want to share with you some of my favourite quotes parents shared with me.
Maybe, you’ll find one resonates with you. I hope you will find these insights useful and that you will share them with other parents of teenagers and young adults.
Greatest Hope for Teen
The most popular reaction that many parents shared was that their greatest hope for their teen was for them to be happy. Some parents also mentioned that they wanted kids to find their joy or something to be passionate about.
"All I want is for him to have the opportunity to achieve his dreams, whatever they may be."
Greatest Concern for Teen
When asked about their greatest concern when it came to their teens, parents first recognized the pains that many of the teens were feeling. For example: anxiety, fear, tears, and a strong fear of failure, among others.
"I think the emotional process has been difficult for her."
Another concern that parents shared was how their teens should balance money and security with passion. Most parents were looking to encourage their kid's interests while helping them paint a realistic picture of future outcomes.
7 pain-points in parent/teen career conversations
1. Talking about a teen's future can be a challenging conversation.
Even though teens have a lot to look forward to, many of them are feeling stressed out and anxious about their decisions. This can make a career conversation challenging.
2. Most parents are disappointed in the services that schools are offering.
3. Many teens are lacking the maturity or preparedness required to make education and career decision.
4. Communication issues between parents and students can create tension in their relationship.
5. Teens and parents have biases that impact how they approach the conversation.
A part of being a young adult is starting to carve your own path. For teens, this can manifest itself through the need to distance themselves from your parents. This need makes it more difficult for them to work with parents to help them make career decisions.
On the parents side, biases can impact their advice when they overrely on certain factors, such as: what made them successful, their personal experiences in the workplace, and their hopes and dreams for their kids.
6. Parents are striving to take a 'balanced' role in the process.
"Rescuing feels great in the moment, but in the long run, it won’t be advantageous."
"It’s an extreme exercise in self-management."
"There is a risk of offending them. How do I gently say they might not be suited for that? I just want to be encouraging."
7. Parents have a greater understanding of the financial implications of teen's career decisions.
While teens understand the concepts of tuition fees, student debt and starting salaries, parents have a more concrete understanding the costs of education, and the impact it can have on one's career. Further, many parents are asking themselves how they want to support their kids moving forward, and for how long.
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I hope you found these insights useful and that you might share them with other parents of teenagers and young adults. I would like to extend a big thank you to the parents who shared their stories with me. Your words will surely have an impact on other parents who are in a similar position.
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